January 2011
43 posts
Is it mere coincidence I was denied connection to...
Something to ponder on, definitely.
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Anonymous asked: how do i become friends with you... will i always have to wake up early morning just to talk to you? :P lol, im sure you know who is asking this ;)
kevinhugs asked: thanks for the follow
PSA of the day:
The only way to be 100% certain of never getting an STD is never to have sex at all. This means that if you do have sex, you need to consider ways that you can reduce your risk of acquiring an infection (or passing on an STD you may not know you have!) There are various strategies you can use. Some relate to whom you have sex with, others relate to what you do...
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The Need for a Gender-Neutral Pronoun
What is a gender-neutral pronoun? What does English need a new pronoun for, anyway? Many people have expressed the need for a singular gender-neutral third-person pronoun: that is, a pronoun to use when someone’s gender is unknown or when the individual is neither male or female. Such instances occur when addressing transgender and genderqueer people who don’t feel comfortable being addressed...
An open letter to my father
Dear dad,
I am writing this letter to you with a really heavy heart. First off, let me tell you that I love you from the bottom of my heart. You are the person that brought me into this world and you mean everything to me. And no matter how many times you say that I don’t love you or care about you, I do! You cannot change that fact. Deal with it.
However, in light of recent conversations and...
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Anonymous asked: Hello Fandiyaaru
Glad to see a section here called 'Ask Me Anything'... if you don't mind I have a few to ask. :)
Firstly, what do you hope to achieve with your blog? would you call yourself an activist for gay rights in Maldives? I am familiar/have seen some of your work on FB.
Do you think there is a big community of gay people here in the Maldives? Does many...
Glad to see a section here called 'Ask Me Anything'... if you don't mind I have a few to ask. :)
Firstly, what do you hope to achieve with your blog? would you call yourself an activist for gay rights in Maldives? I am familiar/have seen some of your work on FB.
Do you think there is a big community of gay people here in the Maldives? Does many...
Sex offender registration
Why are sex offenders/child molesters released so soon after they’re caught and why do their cases take forever to get processed in the Maldivian judicial system? Most of all, why are they allowed to work with children again?
There are just too many of these unexplained cases around. So, I believe a sex offender registry in this cuntry is a step in the right direction to solve these...
Letter on Homosexuality
This is the letter sent to the editor of Minivan News by an anonymous reader — first published on the paper’s website on 26th Septemper 2009. This letter was discarded not long after it was published due to complains of inappropriateness or something to that effect by really small minds who still think backwards, in this day and age.
This needs to be republished, over, and over, and...
Maldivians
Perfecting the art of doing absolutely nothing since the 12th Century — when the Maldives converted to Islam.
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Gay and Lesbian Kingdom of the Coral Sea Islands
It sounds like a big joke - but it isn’t. Located six hours by boat from Australia’s Queensland coast, The Coral Sea Islands are a cluster of deserted sandbanks which span 780,000 square killometres - that’s roughly the size of Sweden and Norway put together.
A group of gay men and women have declared the sandy dots the world’s first independent, sovereign, gay state in protest at their...
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“We’re born naked, and the rest is drag”
– Rupaul
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Gender Identity Disorder
Gender Identity Disorder (GID). This has always been a hard topic to talk about, for me. I have often felt that I should have been born a girl, and my life would have been so much more simpler. Sure, girls get a lot of shit more often then not. But, general everyday life, I feel is easier for them.
A friend of mine, just recently updated her status on facebook and said;
thinks being a girl is...
Calling all intellectual queer maldivians.
Where are you?
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“Without drag in my life, I am a fish out of water! I seriously miss being a Drag...”
– Fan’diyaaru Kakuni
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Waging a Queer Jihad
Originally Posted By Sulayman X
When I founded a web site devoted to the needs of queer Muslims I called it ‘Queer Jihad’, believing the meaning would be quite self-evident. It was not. While provoking outrage in the Muslim community for using a sacred term in a profane way, it was also greeted with genuine puzzlement by many queer Muslims who didn’t see the connection, or...
Operation Equality Talks Now!
A new cyber campaign to bring the discussion of LGBT issues, people and rights to places that are traditionally opposed to equality on the basis of religion, culture or political ideology. It is through dialogue that we can hope to change hearts and minds and open people up to a different way of thinking. The internet is a great way to spread the word, and engage in open minded yet powerful...
Homosexuality: Nature or Nurture? →
“Perhaps there is no one answer, that sexual orientation, whether homosexual or heterosexual; gay, straight, lesbian, or bisexual, all are a cause of a complex interaction between environmental, cognitive, and anatomical factors, shaping the individual at an early age.”
Homosexuality vs. Paedophilia
Can someone please pull in the Maldivian train of thought into the station and explain to me, and the rest of us, why anyone would lump homosexuality and paedophilia into the same category! They aren’t even remotely related.
Paedophilia as a medical diagnosis is defined as a psychological disorder in which the adult prefers prepubescent children and homosexuality is described as the...
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“Honey, black, white, gay, straight… What’s it matter? We all finish...”
– Karen Walker, Will & Grace (TV Series)
Sports on Your Mind?
Barry: I can't go out with the guy. He's an all star, I'm barely in the minors.
Will: Sports again? What did I tell you to say when you have thoughts like that?
Barry: Oh, yeah. Liza, Judy, Barbara, Bette, these are names I shant forget.
Heterosexual Priviledge
I wanted to create an open forum for us to discuss ways that heterosexual privledge influences our lives and how we feel we can overcome it.
Gay people know all too well that we take a risk and we face a decision when we display affection in public, come out as Queer, talk about our significant other, or even just being who we are with regards to our gender expression.
How do you feel...
"Straight Acting"
We have all done it, know someone who does it, or have varying understandings of what the term means. “Straight Acting” is when a Queer person is not exhibiting any mannerisms that appear to fit an LGBTQ stereotype. For example a gay man who tries to fit in by avoiding seeming effeminate, or a lesbian who tries to avoid seeming overtly masculine. “Straight Acting” is...
Is the Community Comprised of Hypocrites?
We claim to pride ourselves on diversity and promote the notion of acceptance of others. Are we really hypocrites in disguise behind the banner of a rainbow? We dispel myths and claim to hate labels but we also embrace all these things we so often argue against. The community claims that we don’t need to follow heteronormative thinking and that we don’t define ourselves by our...
Where are my anons?
bring on all the sexual and personal questions.
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On the Care and Maintenance of Straight...
Fun facts about straight people:
Most of them are not dangerous!
Some of them are actually quite lovely people.
Straight people are not as violent as they are portrayed in action movies.
Straight people are your neighbors, your friends, members of your community. You may be related to a straight person, or even share a room with one in the hospital.
I mean it TAKES ALL KINDS, amirite?
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“Retention of other rights.
(a) the enumeration of rights and freedoms in this...”
– Article 62, the Constitution of the Maldives
The Heterosexual Questionnaire
The Heterosexual Questionnaire was created back in 1972 to put heterosexual people in the shoes of a gay person for just a moment. Questions and assumptions made of Gays and Lesbians that are unfair, are reversed and this time asked to the straight people.
1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
2. When and where did you decide you were a heterosexual?
3. Is it possible this is just a phase and you will out grow it?
4. Is it possible that your sexual orientation has stemmed from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
5. Do your parents know you are straight? Do your friends know- how did they react?
6. If you have never slept with a person of the same sex, is it just possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
7. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality… can’t you just be who you are and keep it quiet?
8. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?
9. Why do heterosexuals try to recruit others into this lifestyle?
10. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual… Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual teachers?
11. Just what do men and women do in bed together? How can they truly know how to please each other, being so anatomically different?
12. With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
13. How can you become a whole person if you limit yourself to compulsive, exclusive heterosexuality?
14. Considering the menace of overpopulation how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?
15. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Don’t you feel that he or she might be inclined to influence you in the direction of his orher leanings?
16. There seem to very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed that might enable you to change if you really want to.
17. Have you considered trying aversion therapy?
- Martin Rochlin, Ph.D., 1972
The Homophobic Side Effect - Queer Paranoia
Homophobia is heavily prevalent in society, in small towns and big cities alike, it is hard to escape the intolerance, and prejudice that surrounds the often taboo topic of queer sexuality. Whether one is closeted, struggling to come out, or out and proud, homophobia does take a toll on all of our lives. Ever fear sharing your sex life with your physician for fear of judgment even when it...
Does Heterophobia Exist?
We are all familiar with the term and concept of homophobia which is the irrational fear and hatred of homosexuals. But is there a fear and hatred of heterosexuals displayed by some in the gay community? When gay people choose to isolate themselves and only associate with others like themselves, do some develop a sense of anger and frustration at the heterosexual majority? There have even...
“”In Germany they first came for the communists, and I didn’t speak up because I...”
– Rev. Martin Niemoller